Today’s TMI Tuesday topic is Body Hair! No matter how you feel about it, on a guy, a girl, on anyone! Share your successes, your failures, your philosophies and fantasies! Body hair is the topic today. Pretty safe for work I’d imagine. No worries. Hope you are having a fabulous day! =0)

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I am of the belief that body hair is a very personal choice in how you sport it, groom it, clean it and how much you may want to share about it. I have no secrets. I rarely shave. I used to be pretty diligent about shaving my armpits and legs, but now? It’s armpits about once a month now and I couldn’t tell you when the last time I shave my legs was. Ha-ha! I don’t care who knows it. I wear jeans and a top everyday. When I do wear dresses I usually wear leggings or thick tights. No one notices and no one cares! I’m an all natural sort of gal in this way. I don’t wax. I only pluck what I feel necessary as far as my face goes (I have 3 chin hairs and 3 side/face/mole hairs). I used to get my eye brows threaded, but I’m too broke for such luxuries now. And that is that!

I have tried all manner of Nair and it’s competitors. None leave me feeling the need for short-shorts. None leave me feeling like lazing about in a bikini in the sun (ouch! it burnses!) or any other cliche from their ads. I’ve tried the creams and lotions that claim to hinder regrowth…all bullshit if you ask me! When someone pointed out my “moustache” when I was 17, I shaved it! Oh regret, you bitch! Ha-ha! It was terrible! I once shaved my lady-bush and it’s never grown back quite as lush and beautiful as it once was. *sigh* Now it’s sort of sparse and sad, I think But I get no complaints, either.

So what are your habits, thoughts, stories? I’d love to hear them all! <3

Today’s TMI Tuesday is about communication in relationships. Nothing not safe for work or triggering that I can think of (but do let me know if you find something to be of issue). Please share your thoughts and experiences in comments; as always this is where the action happen! Ha-ha! I love TMI Tuesday, don’t you?

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I have talked quite a bit here about my own issues within my marriage. Hey, 13 years with someone, you’re bound to have some stuff come up, ya know? So I met up with an old friend and had a nice long heart to heart last Thursday. It was both a relief and a bit scary. I mean, it was nice to get some things off of my chest, but a bit scary when someone you’ve known for so long will say something in a way you totally get yet weren’t expecting. Ha! We’ve been friends over twenty years, we get each other, go figure! I value our friendship even more now as adults than I ever could have when we were a couple of ridiculous teens.

My husband, B, had been trying to get me to go fishing with him pretty much from the get-go. How he described it however was basically the reason I didn’t want to go. It sounded like torture! But then she explained why I HAD to go (she knows she can’t give me an option). Then she told me about a book that she says would have saved her marriage had she read it sooner. Saturday morning as I was opening the cafe, FedEx arrived with that very book! She’d sent it to me because she knew how much it would help.

So I spent most of Saturday at the cafe reading that book. With many interruption I read the whole thing in 3 hours. Not a long one, for sure. But man did it make a ton of fucking sense! It’s not that B and I were fighting or not getting along, but we aren’t exactly communicating or enjoying each others’ company like we used to and this has bothered me for some time now (as you may know already if you’re a regular reader of this here blog-a-ma-thing).

I’ll admit right now that at first I thought, “A book to help my marriage?! Oh brother, give me a break!” And despite the cheesy title and all, it has already helped! And B has promised to read it, too (I presented it as an option with no pressure). We even had a pretty deep discussion of our own that afternoon. It was interesting. I guess we’d been sort of not discussing things for so long that I never mentioned how much my views had changed about things. It seems a lot of my actions early on in our relationship still affect him deeply. So it was nice to talk it all out.

Ah, yes! The book! The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman (756 5-star reviews on amazon? Wow!). To break it down, there are 5 main languages that people speak when expressing love. Rarely do two people in a couple speak the same love language and so the book explains them and offers ways in which to figure it out and fulfill the needs of both partners in the relationship. I know this sounds pretty basic, but I can assure you that while reading it was describing my relationship, my friends’ and more! And what I love most about it is that you can put things into action immediately! You don’t even need the other half of your couple to read it if they don’t want to. It’s that good! ha-ha!

So, we will see how or if anything changes after B reads the book. I already see how it’s helped. So yay! And hopefully we will go back to having more of these deeper conversations because they really help. Just talking things out in a calm way, ya know? It’s nice! And so I already wanna loan my copy to two different couples I know! Ha-ha! But I won’t push it on anyone, I hate that!

What communication issues do you or have you had in your relationships? What have you done to try to help?

Yesterday’s post got such a response I thought we could continue the conversation today. Dating! The good the bad the UGLY! Let it out! Let’s all share our best and worst dating moments. Get it off your chest! Guys, too! I find it healing and helpful to share these things and enjoy reading others’ stories, too. Feel free to get as graphic as you like, no worries on TMI Tuesday! =0)

(To the tune of Lady Gaga’s “Boys Boys Boys”)

This TMI Tuesday post is all about Sex Toys! If this doesn’t interest you, you’d rather not know about my sex life or toy preference, or you’re at work and don’t wanna get in trouble, do come back tomorrow for your regularly scheduled random fatty talk right here on my blog-a-ma-thing. Thanks!

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On my recent visit to Good Vibrations for that fabulously fun Burlesque class a couple of weeks ago (oh how time flies!) I picked up a toy I’d been looking at online.  I loved the color and the feel of the outside of it and the length seemed fab, too! But then, like so many toys, it left me unimpressed and generally dissatisfied. I know, for $22 what do I expect?! Well, I expected something! Perhaps I had high expectations, but that $22 is hard won for me (more than a week’s worth of work/tips) and so I always have high hopes when spending my dough.

See? It’s perty!

The last toy I purchase was the Butterfly Kiss and while I have enjoyed it a couple of times, it’s length is problematic (the butterfly doesn’t actually do anything for my clit as it either doesn’t reach or is so weak as to be meaningless). I do appreciate the design of it though. And again, the price was great at $18.

Mine’s the pink one.

So compact yet powerful!

Y’all I’m drawing a complete blank today. If you have any suggestions, lay ’em on me! If you’d like to share your own TMI stuff, please do! Only thing I really have to share is that I just bought some completely adorable tops at Target this morning and I am still giddy that I found them in my size (stock was limited and both weren’t in their proper place…fate much?). I also took it upon myself to once again fill out a comment card complaining about the women’s plus sections complete lack of signing as well as the fact that the entire section is crammed onto four racks so that if you touch one garment half of them fall on the floor. Also had to talk to management about a couple of negative ninnies working there standinga round talking shit about their co-workers. Inapropriate doesn’t even cover it, yo! Sometimes you just have to speak up and tell people they are wrong and sometimes you just have to go over their head. I know I did the right thing and I was satisfied when the manager seemed more upset about it than I was. Hey, I’ve been there, retail management sucks, but lousy employees are worse!

How are you today? What can I help you with? Lay it on me! I love you! <3