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Random Outfit Post is Random

November30

So last Friday, you know the shopping one, my friend Jeanette and I decided to hang out. I was feeling funky, fresh, dope and fly and so I put together an outfit I’d never worn before. Not only that, the top I didn’t even pick out. Someone at Cupcakes and Muffintops insisted it is too cute for me not to get and so I bought it without even trying it on. It was that cute! But it took me months before I attempted to wear it and until this particular Friday, I hadn’t found a way to work it. The cardigan has a similar story. I’d purchased it for a steal at Target on clearance, but it’s ivory and what am I doing with an ivory cardigan? I get things dirty without even trying! It has this lovely deco-esque square latticework on the front…just fabulous, which is why I bought it of course. Never in my dreams had I thought of these two cherished but unworn pieces together…but they do, perfectly:

And I started rocking my “pomp” again. Which I am quite enjoying. I am sick of my shortie hair in the back, but I am hopeful and patient that they will get to growin’ soon here. I wasn’t sure what color glasses to wear, so I went with my usual/casual/go-to pair of dark purple. You can hardly see, but I’m wearing the earrings and necklace set my then fiance bought me 6 months before our wedding. I hadn’t worn the necklace in ages and I love it’s simple elegance. And of course my usual Avenue denim lite straight leg jeans. I am loathe to even imagine the day I need to buy new jeans. I have five pair of these and wear them constantly. They are thin and have stretch. I buy them a size bigger than I should, but I never have to unbutton them and they are the perfect length this way. They are discontinued though, so yeah, they better last forever. Ha-ha!

The Puggyman doesn’t like his picture taken. Always a suspicious eye when the camera is out:

I had never gone black Friday shopping, truly. I’d always worked on such days for my many years of retail. Jeanette and I only went to Avenue, but it was fun! No crowds, no rude clerks, it was fabulous. For a grand total of twenty-six dollars, I made out like a bandit: Two free tote bags*, one pair of leg warmers, one printed henley, one black henly, one pair of glam earrings and one pair of sock-slippers. And the tote bags are nice, too! It was not only the best black Friday experience I’d ever had, but it was the best Avenue experience, too! I will say that I am super disappointed and a bit angry that they no longer carry EE tights…not even on their website, except for the plainest of plain ones. I did order a pair of the sweater tights in an E, but they haven’t come yet, so fingers crossed that they fit. This shopping trip was a hoot and a half, too. Jeanette and I tried on shoes and played with accessories and she got so many cute things, too! Then it was decided that these were the sexiest and most glam shoes ever! But I insist that we find the exact same style, or similar, in a flat. I refuse to suffer for such beauty. We tried them on and made up stories of our would-be glamorous lives, had we these magical shoes and finally put them away with a catch in our throats…if you know of a similar shoe in a flat? DO EMAIL ME! Ha-ha! *I made two separate purchases, thus earning two free with purchase tote bags.

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Fatspiration on Tumblr

November28

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I just discovered this awesome tumblr blog: Daily Fatspiration and it made me realize how much I used to be on Tumblr and how fun it was and positive and full of great people and information and activism. And so I wanted to share with you all of the lovely fatty blogs that I follow on Tumblr so that you may get a chance to experience the awesome, too. Some of these blogs may not be safe for work, so please be careful. If you follow some I may have missed, please link to them in comments.

Fat From The Side

Fuck Yeah Fat Arms

Fuck Yeah Chubby Butches

Body Positive Tips

Fatties In Corsets

Fat Positive Manatee

Fat Fashion

Curvy Girl Revolution

Fat Girl Vintage Style

Fuck Yeah Fat Babes On Bikes

Fuck Yeah Trans Fats

Chubby Bunny Boys

Glitter Politic

Lovely Fatties

Fatty Forever

Fat Girl’s Guide

I Love Fat

Fuck Yeah Angry Fat Grrrrrls

Fats And Cats

Redefining Body Image

Lovely Fashion Plus

Eff Yeah Chubby Girls

Double Chin Love

Plus Model Magazine

Fuck Yeah Beth Ditto

My Happy Fat

Love The Chub

Dirtiez Do  Fatshion

Love Your Body Detroit

Fat People Art

Fuck Yeah Fattractive

Chubby-Bunnies

Domino Dollhouse

Yr Welcome

Fuck Yeah Tattooed Chubby Girls

Fuck Yeah Old Time Fatties

Fuck Yeah Chubby Fashion

Fuck Yeah Chubby Guys

Take A Fat guy To Work

Death Fatties

Fuck Yeah Fat Ladies

Body Love Wellness

Fuck Yeah Fat Positive

Big Boy Fashion

90’s style!

November23

You ever get ready to go out but don’t wanna fuss or anything and truly you just wanna be comfortable? I think we have all been there in some way, right? Well, last Monday night I was getting ready to go to karaoke with my BFFs and I just wasn’t in the mood to dress up. I was already wearing a perfectly comfortable t-shirt and jeans, why fuck with a good thing? So I threw on a necklace and a vest and this neat-o feather thingy I got at Joann’s and just went with it. The feather thingy sort of looks like a little flower, but it’s feathers, so it looked like a casual boutineer. I was feeling quite fabulous actually. This insta-outfit was almost exactly “my style”. I popped on a couple of bracelets before heading downstairs and ta-da!

I’d wanted a classic black vest for years and finally found one a couple of months ago at Kohl’s of all places! I had a ten dollar off coupon and was shocked when the vest actually buttoned up! I wore it with my costume for Halloween this year, but this is my first attempt at rocking it classic old school 90’s style, yo! What do you think? I still like it, though I’m not as in love with the outfit now that I’m not wearing it. The necklace was on clearance at Avenue, the t-shirt is old navy from about 3 years ago, the jeans are Avenue Denim Lite straight leg-discontinued, and I’m wearing my not-yet-famous-but-totes-should-be five dollar doc martens. They’re a size too big, but for five bucks including shipping? I couldn’t say no…and they’re so comfy!

I’m so over other people’s expectations anyway, this outfit to me says exactly that. This is who I am, take me or leave me, that’s your choice, man.

What outfit makes you feel this way? Are you secretly wanting to rock a style you’ve never tried before? What’s stopping you?

Fatty in Eshakti Pt.1

November7

Yesterday Jeanette and I headed up to San Francisco to catch Virgie Tovar‘s lecture on Intersextions of Fat Positivity & Sex Positivity at Good Vibrations. Well, we were very late. You see, parking in the city is a pain in the ass and well, we spent a good twenty minutes trying to find parking and by the time we did we’d probably missed a good chunk of Virgie’s talk. Bummer. But we went in and the fabulous ladies at Good Vibrations were so kind and helpful and welcoming and even escorted us back to the lecture so we wouldn’t feel weird being so very late.

I wish I could tell you all about the lecture and what I learned or took away from it, but to be honest, and more likely because we’d missed nearly half of it, I have nothing to report. The other ladies that were in the lecture were new to Fat Liberation/Acceptance and I was a little surprised by this, but in a happy way since they were very interested and seemed to want to hear more about it. Always a good thing! And I am learning to be more comfortable telling people about this blog. So far so good.

After the lecture, Jeanette and I stuck around the back room to take in the, um, uh…sights? Ha-ha! Well, the room was covered in crocheted penises!!! It was quite distracting. As someone who in fact crochets I was quite interested on a detailed level, too…but it was funny to be surrounded by it all:

 

There were just so many…everywhere!!! Ha-ha! Some were frilly, some plain, some, um, firm and some soft and it was a delight to look closer and see the individual adornments of the…pieces! Ha-ha! I’m a twelve year old sometimes, sorry.

After snapping some pics and grabbing a business card of the artist, we shopped around the actual store and we both found some new fun things to try out. I may even do a sex toy review again, yay!

Then we high-tailed it out of the city and to a bakery for a bite to eat. It was just so nice to hand out and chat with Jeanette. Even if we missed the lecture, which was a bummer, I still had a great time. We chatted and carbed out and checked out a fancy goodwill store that I swear I will return to. Oh yeah, and I wore one of my new Eshakti dresses:

 

The one I’m wearing is here, but it looks like they took the blue color down. No worries, it’ll probably be back. Little tip, if you see something missing from one day to the next, try just typing in “dress” in the search box and everything will come up. Not to say that they still don’t discontinue things, but I think they reorganize and stuff often and some things get lost in the shuffle. I love this dress, I chose the custom option for 7 bucks as I always do, but it’s always worth it! The cardigan I got at a swap, the boots are from Avenue last year and the tights are actually teggings from Re/Dress.

I highly recommend Eshakti to anyone, anywhere. Invite a friend over, bust out the measuring tapes and take each other’s measurements. It’s fun! And having your measurements on-hand makes online clothing shopping sooooo much easier. I have another dress I haven’t worn yet and another on it’s way…so exciting! Remember, I was the gal who hadn’t worn a dress since high school. I at one point felt I didn’t deserve pretty things or shouldn’t wear dresses for a number of other reasons. Thanks to Lesley Kinzel and my fashion idol,  Nicole, not only do I wear dresses, I rock the hell out of them!

Remember, I stopped giving a damn and now do what makes me happy…don’t  you? Thanks for reading. <3

Step 2: Do What Makes You Happy

November2
Step 2: Do What Makes You Happy
I always joke about wearing a tiara to the grocery store, or my wedding dress…I’ve actually done the tiara one. Ha-ha! The point is, do what makes YOU happy, period. Not what you think would make others happy. Let them worry about that. Because you’ve already stopped giving a damn, remember?!
Stop holding yourself back. Just do whatever your heart desires, but especially if you’ve been keeping those desires to yourself. Always wanted to splurge on a fancy-frilly dress that is so “not you?” Fuck it! Do it! Fuck Flattering and just do what FEELS RIGHT!!! Because no one is or can do that for you. No one can suddenly make you more you.
And you cannot be your most authentic self without doing what makes you happy. You just can’t. We all tend to put others first, and that is no crime, but by neglecting your needs and desires you diminish their importance to you and that is bullshit. You will be of no use to others if you keep neglecting yourself! Call it self-care, call it Caturday, call it whatever you must…but DO IT!
“But I don’t want to be rude” then don’t be. But don’t be nice at the expense of your own happiness. Don’t stay late for your boss if you’re not getting paid, period. Don’t ignore your own instincts out of fear of being seen as rude (many victims of violence have said that they ignored their instincts because they didn’t want to be or appear rude). Worry about you, your wellness, your safety and for fuck’s sake, your happiness!
Now that you’ve stopped giving a damn, you can do what makes you happy more often and hopefully easier, too. Wear clashing patterns and colors. Break all of the fashion “rules” and have fun, too! Try something you’ve always wanted to, like a dance class or hula hooping or roller skating or rolling down a grassy hill. Why not?! If it makes you happy, DO IT! Life is just too short not to.
I cannot count the times I’ve neglected to speak up and share what I really wanted or even needed. But I have only just begun to do the things that make me happy. That belly dance class? I’d wanted to do that for a long time. Why didn’t I? Lots of reasons, or at least I’d convinced myself of them. I love to dance, since I was born practically, yet I’d held myself back from connecting with my body in this way out of fear and shame and guilt and the perception of others. Since I started to go out dancing again with friends? I’ve never had so much fun!
No matter what it is that you want to do, don’t hesitate. There is no ultimate reward for self-sacrifice of this nature. NONE! The only prize is a heavy sense of regret and depression. I know, I have been there. You don’t have to dive in head first, start small if you must, watch an instructional dance video or something, but don’t wait. Time flies far too fast to wait anymore. When times are as tough as these, I feel the urgency of trying to live it up as much as I can with what I’ve got while I still can. I don’t want to be the sad old lady in a rocking chair talking about the old days. I want to be the bad ass disco granny in the sequin skirt and crazy hair do making all of the hipsters jaws drop as I stroll into the hottest horror movie premiere. Yeah, that’ll be me! Watch out!
“I think perfection is ugly. Somewhere in the things humans make, I want to see scars, failure, disorder, distortion.”
~Yohji Yamamoto
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