NotBlueAtAll

I'm just a fat gal with a blog and an opinion. Well, lots of opinions.

Podcast Episode Eight: The Fat Waitress

April22

I was fortunate enough to chat with Amanda of Fat Waitress fame as well as Love Your Body Detroit!
She is definitely someone to keep your eyes on, so passionate and sweet! So many ideas and seemingly boundless creativity!
We talk about being fat while working in food service, activism, Detroit and so much more!

You may listen to the podcast here on the page (player is below) or on iTunes here (or search podcasts for: NotBlueAtAll)
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Thanks,

S

*Sorry for the low sound quality on these. It is due to having to compress the file. My server only allows for 7mb of audio and most of these podcasts are around 25-40 mb. If you have any tips, suggestions, etc, do let me know. I use Audacity to edit and a compression program for the final cut and upload. Seems to have gotten worse since I paid for the software versus sampling it. Thanks for sticking it out. Working on improvements, always!

Podcast Episode 8

 

International No Diet Day May 6th

April21

What are you doing for International No Diet Day? It’s a Friday, May 6th…I will be in San Francisco with Marilyn Wann, figuratively pissing on Dr. Xavier Pi-Sunyer‘s anti-obesity cheerios! Woo! My first big fat public acitivism! Dr. Pi-Sunyer will be giving a lecture about the state of “obesity” for the next decade at the Obesity Treatment and Prevention conference. The conference will be taking place at the Hyatt on the Embarcadero. His talk begins at 4pm and we just wanna let our voices be heard. It will be a peaceful demonstration. If you can come, please do! (It’s near BART.)

And just a few days before that happens, Michelle Obama will have unveiled a new Beyoncé track dedicated to her “Let’s Move” campaign, with children all over performing a “flash workout.”

*headdesk*

With all of these people and their endless “think of the children” yammering, I actually am thinking of said children and how awful it would feel to be a fat kid in today’s classrooms with even our first lady trying to marginalize you. It’s bad enough with all of the media and marketing and pretty much the entire world telling fats the world over how terrible they are. And it’s complete and utter bullshit!

As a fat activist (and if you’re fat in public, well, you’re one, too!), I feel the absolute need to speak up and out and be heard. If you can’t make it to San Francisco, see if there are any other events going on for International No Diet Day or consider organizing your own demonstration! The more people we reach with out positivity and truths, the better! Woo!

 

Inspirationally Rad Fatty Alert: Psycho Sue

April20

My last podcast was with the ever incredible and amazing Psycho Sue! I had no idea at the time how much of an impact that little convo of ours would have on each other and even our readers.

I was ever so delighted to find the song she mentioned writing recently about being rejected for her size in the music industry (BULLSHIT!!!) on her blog. I clicked play and got chills instantly. Though, I must admit, by the end of the song I was bawling my face off. Good stuff, you guys! You don’t even know. Get over there and watch/listen and prepare for awesomeness and inspiration!

And then again to my delight and amazement (I am beginning to believe that this is all she does, amaze me), she started a sewing tutorial video series! Woot! A Total bad ass! I love ya, Sue! Keep doing what you’re doing, because you’re doing it just right! <3

I wish we were neighbors! Oh the shenanigans we would get into?! Ha-ha! And our little puggies would be BFFs and we’d live happily sewing after…Ha-ha! Seriously, I am so glad to have her, and you all here reading, in my life! Thank you!

My Outfit From the Swap

April13

I mentioned my outfit from the Swap in S.F. on Sunday and now I have a pic to share with you all:

The shrug was from onestopplus.com I believe it’s an Ellos one, discontinued, as I wanted it in black, too.
The dress is Torrid (size 4), but I got it at a swap so there’s no telling when it was purchased.
The tights are from Avenue (microfiber size E) and the shoes are Doc Martens (eBay!)
The pearls my husband bought me a few years ago and the bag I got Vintage on Etsy.com

My make up (since people actually asked) was Clinque’s “Black Honey” collection which was a 3 color eye pallet, lipstick and gloss. I skipped the gloss and put a different, more pink color under the lipstick. My fave new mascara is the Falsies one, I think it’s Maybeline. My foundation (I never wear the stuff but had fun getting dolled up for the swap) was Almay’s color blend in light, just used the Revlon colorstay concealer and covergirl translucent pressed powder. And just ’cause, the glasses were from JC Penny. Ha!

I never know what to saw on these fatshion type posts. But here I am, in my strangely colorful glory! I had intended to wear that black eshakti dress, but it looked too formal/dark for the day. As per usual, I am 5’4″, 300+ lbs and full of sass, spunk, cheer and sarcasm.

Special thanks to Nicole for taking the fab photos! Can’t wait to see the rest! I know she’ll be recapping the swap on her blog, too! Woo!

Fat Events: Always Worth It!

April11
Yesterday I attended a Fatshion Swap event in San Francisco. I had heard about it on Tumblr.com and immediately knew I’d have to go. It’s so very rare that these things work with my schedule. I got all dolled up and headed out a bit later than I had planned. I had one of those weird moments when you know there’s a chance that you’ll be way over dressed or made up and I’d walk in a everyone would be in jeans and pony tails. Well, that didn’t happen. Ha! I did have a helluva time walking up the hill to the venue from where I parked in my outfit because of the wind insisting the world see my undergarments. I did make it though and was greeted by some lovely fats!
The swap is THIS SUNDAY! SF Weekly wrote it up, and we&#8217;re at capacity! Heather and Laura are spending Saturday picking up champagne, making playlists, getting change, and doing it to it! Sunday can&#8217;t get here fast enough. Oh, and if you&#8217;re not at the swap, you can follow along with the fun on twitter! Hopefully we&#8217;ll remember to tweet lots of sexy shots, but we can&#8217;t promise we won&#8217;t be too drunk on champagne and cupcakes to forget!
I handed off my clothes for the swap and gave my donation at the door. Part of me expected a stamp on my hand or the typical club “no in & out privileges” talk. None of that though. The moment I walked in I was slightly overwhelmed until I saw my friend Nicole off to one side chatting with Marilyn Wann. How fucking cool is that?! Way fucking cool, I’ll tell ya! And everyone looked amazing! (Nicole was kind enough to take some pictures and I shall post them once I receive them. She’s a very busy gal and so we will have to wait patiently together.) I believe that there was champagne and cupcakes, but I arrived terribly late and so there was not much in that arena by that time. No worries, I had plenty to see and do and chat and just good times!
What I could not get over/handle/understand was that there were so many gals coming up to me saying how they loved my outfit and even asking for make up tips…from ME?! Twilight Zone!!! Cannot be real! Yet somehow, it was. I never dress up or wear make up. The outfit I wore came together by sheer accident and my make up was easy because it was the infamous and classic Clinique “Black Honey” collection. Ha-ha! But I was a-glow from the compliments. You could not have asked for cooler or nicer gals, I swear!
After some chatting and seeing what I could find on the size 20+ table (I scored a cotton skirt) I turned around and there was Jessica in a see-through black mesh dress with ivory lace collar smiling right at me! What a bizarre moment that was. I’d never met or spoken to her before and usually only see her on Tumblr, so to suddenly be right in front of her smiling, rosy-glowing face? Fabulous! She is just as lovely and amazing in-person as she is online. Myself, Nicole, Jessica and a bunch of other gals (sorry ladies, I remember some of your names but not all…it was too much fun!) headed out to lunch once we were done at the swap. We talked and ate and laughed so very much. It was a true delight!
I feel that I made some new friends. I felt so welcomed. I felt that I was a part of something very special. And let me tell you, walking along Divisadero in San Francisco in a procession of glamorous looking fat ladies? All eyes were on  us! At one point Jessica began waving at the on-lookers and I just couldn’t keep the smile off my face. What a sight we must have been?! What a fantastic and fabulous and fucking bad ass fatty sight we must have been?! Ha-ha!
I did feel a twinge of sadness sitting there with these lovely gals. You see, I thought of so many of you who couldn’t attend this fat event. I thought of specific friends I have made through this blog or Fatshionista or just all over the ‘Sphere, ya know? And I just thought, well, I thought to myself that I needed to enjoy it all the more so that I could somehow absorb it’s core goodness and give it right back to all who have been so kind and helped and supported me along my fat acceptance journey. I realize that there is no way I can beam such loveliness through the internet, but I assure you it’s being sent out right to you at this very moment. Huge rays of fatty-love, shining out from within me and straight into you! Can you feel that? It’s the love! Ha-ha!
My point (I have a point?), is that fat events are so very worth the effort put into organizing and attending them. I know it’s not always easy to get out of our lives and routines for such things, believe me I know! But damn, there is nothing like that feeling! This swap was such a fun and eye opening experience for me. I just wish it didn’t have to end. That none of us ever had to go to a job or a home or any of those lifey things. No, we would just exist in a realm all our own and laugh and laugh! But reality is what it is and here I am at work. I feel hung over, but not from my pint of pear cider. I feel a bit worn out. Because I know how special yesterday was and I think I am somehow mourning the fact that it’s over and who knows what tomorrow will bring. We have to enjoy each moment as much as we can and be grateful for having these amazing people in our lives (online or IRL).
I have no doubt that another swap will be organized and I will attend. There’s also NoLose in Oakland this Summer and hopefully another Cupcakes & Muffin Tops (clothing swap organized by Big Moves Bay Area) later in the summer, too. I have my monthly fat meet up on the second Saturday of the month at my cafe (for now). And who knows what else is brewing out there?! If you can, please go to these events, it’s such an opportunity to meet and relate and enjoy the company of those who would never hate or judge you. Why? Because they themselves have dealt with all of that, too. There is this unspoken bond. There is a special sparkly something that just makes these things so worth it. And if there aren’t any fat events near you, organize one yourself! There are so many fats who would love to help you do just that!
Thanks,
<3
S
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